Surviving Narcissism
Surviving Narcissism
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A Very Odd Way Of Finding Control Over A Narcissist
Since narcissists are relentless in their efforts to control you, it's easy to fall into bad habits in reverse. Dr. Les Carter highlights some of the common pitfalls, then offers a spot-on, proven way to stay out of their clutches. Once you learn it, you (not the narcissist) are the one in control.
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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his UA-cam channel, his videos have received more than 110 million views.
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Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/
This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me
Ready, Set, Connect: Strengthen relationship skills; live authentically survivingnarcissism.tv/ready-set-connect/
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How Narcissists Sabotage Their Alleged Superiority
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Narcissists are so self-impressed that they truly believe they are superior. Dr. Les Carter clearly describes that they don't comprehend how this mindset works against you...yet it also sabotages their own well-being. He challenges you to see what they cannot see so you will not be fooled by their many efforts to be allegedly superior. If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a s...
Breaking Away From Trauma Bonds, featuring Dr. Nadine Macaluso
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Dr. Les Carter is joined by Dr. Nadine Macaluso who specializes in treating relationship trauma and C-PTSD. Her personal story was depicted in the movie, The Wolf Of Wall St. starring Leonardo DiCaprio. Actress Margot Robbie played the role based on Nadine's life. Once she broke away from her harrowing experiences, she took time to heal, eventually remarried, then earned her Ph.D. in Somatic Ps...
Why Can't Narcissists Be Kind?
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Most would agree that kindness is a hallmark of a healthy style of engagement. Being an encourager goes a long way in making life seem right. Dr. Les Carter explains how narcissists might (?) make efforts at kindness, but their internal turmoil trips them up. He examines keen insights for you to understand about their internal turmoil. If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a s...
The Ultimate Proof Of Narcissists Quitting On Themselves
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Do you ever have problems or do you sometimes feel stuck? Of course, you do. Healthy people are self-aware and will acknowledge the need for adjustments. When you say you need to adjust, you are saying "yes" to growth. When narcissists can't admit problems, it goes beyond dishonesty. It means they have quit on themselves. They refuse to mature. If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carte...
6 Blind Spots That Keep Narcissists Stuck
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Narcissists think they have life figured out and you should be as they say. Drawing upon his decades as a therapist, Dr. Les Carter describes how they have significant blind spots that keep them stuck in their dysfunctions. Their profound lack of self-awareness prompts them to perpetuate all sorts of unhealthy patterns. To read the article on this topic, go to survivingnarcissism.tv/6-blind-spo...
Introducing Dr. C's New Course: Anger Games!
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Introducing Dr. C's New Course: Anger Games!
5 Signs Of Narcissists Losing Their Moral Compass
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5 Signs Of Narcissists Losing Their Moral Compass
Is It Time To Disconnect From The Narcissist?
Is It Time To Disconnect From The Narcissist?
What Is A Narcissist's Defense Mechanism Of Splitting?
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What Is A Narcissist's Defense Mechanism Of Splitting?
7 Ways You Hand Over Your Power To A Narcissist
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7 Ways You Hand Over Your Power To A Narcissist
Healthy Versus Unhealthy Boundaries, featuring Terri Cole
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Healthy Versus Unhealthy Boundaries, featuring Terri Cole
How Narcissists Play Both Sides Of The Victim Game
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How Narcissists Play Both Sides Of The Victim Game
Why Can't Narcissists Connect?
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Why Can't Narcissists Connect?
What Do Narcissists Gain By Being Secretive?
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What Do Narcissists Gain By Being Secretive?
What Does It Mean When A Narcissist MUST Dominate?
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What Does It Mean When A Narcissist MUST Dominate?
A Narcissist's Playbook For Whittling Away Your Independence
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A Narcissist's Playbook For Whittling Away Your Independence
What Is A Contrarian Narcissist?
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What Is A Contrarian Narcissist?
Narcissistic Families That Resemble Cults, featuring Meredith Miller
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Narcissistic Families That Resemble Cults, featuring Meredith Miller
If Narcissists Are So Special, Why Do They Run People Off?
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If Narcissists Are So Special, Why Do They Run People Off?
Can You Become A Wounded Healer After A Narcissist?
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Can You Become A Wounded Healer After A Narcissist?
10 Worst Responses To A Narcissist's Games
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10 Worst Responses To A Narcissist's Games
How Do Narcissists Cope When They Feel Miserable?
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How Do Narcissists Cope When They Feel Miserable?
Narcissists Who Morph From Irresistible To Disgusting
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Narcissists Who Morph From Irresistible To Disgusting
The 4 Primary Goals Of A Covert Narcissist
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The 4 Primary Goals Of A Covert Narcissist
Strategies Narcissists Use To Minimize Your Self Trust, featuring Dr. Ramani Durvasula
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Strategies Narcissists Use To Minimize Your Self Trust, featuring Dr. Ramani Durvasula
My #1 Covert Sign For Spotting Narcissism
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My #1 Covert Sign For Spotting Narcissism
How To Spot A Narcissist's Self Loathing
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How To Spot A Narcissist's Self Loathing
Tales from Therapy: Where Is Your Spite Toward The Narcissist Leading You?
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Tales from Therapy: Where Is Your Spite Toward The Narcissist Leading You?
Why Narcissists Can't Admit Being Wrong, featuring Dr. Guy Winch
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Why Narcissists Can't Admit Being Wrong, featuring Dr. Guy Winch

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @loris4814
    @loris4814 17 годин тому

    My life , now I know what it is finally!!

  • @incognito595
    @incognito595 17 годин тому

    #1 IF YOU ARE BEING MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED AND INSULTED AND BULLIED AND INVALIDATED? AND LIED TO CONSTANTLY?

  • @tigertail1056
    @tigertail1056 17 годин тому

    He started using I statements saying if I statements...then started calling me a corpse...multiple times...I got out

  • @EmarieT-cn1li
    @EmarieT-cn1li 17 годин тому

    That's exactly what they did to me...destroyed my life snd send their minions daily to make sure of it down to not allowing me to buy a microwave at the hardware store.. calling the sales associate that I am speaking to who looks st me and says "you are not special"...that's just one of many incidents...it gets worse...they monitor everything I do covertly while reminding me how unworthy I am to live and function.

  • @clyndermoody4192
    @clyndermoody4192 18 годин тому

    Thank you, Dr. Carter. My father does what you are talking about. i just didn't know what it was called at thd time. It is good that someone can break it down. Thanks so much. When he does I have been lucky to just say nothing or turn it around into something positive.

  • @Bl4ckSuzum1ya
    @Bl4ckSuzum1ya 18 годин тому

    Number three and seven...

  • @karenzilverberg4699
    @karenzilverberg4699 19 годин тому

    100%

  • @kellyjones5133
    @kellyjones5133 19 годин тому

  • @KH11307
    @KH11307 20 годин тому

    Imagine being yelled at you begged and sobbed to stop molesting you and instesd of stopping theu would do it nore aggresive and look at me while they were doing it waiting for me to start crying again but i just became cold and would say thats fine

  • @KH11307
    @KH11307 21 годину тому

    You are told you are talking shit and you aren't even speaking or talking, which by definition is the action of creating speech with your mouth.

  • @wissn2112
    @wissn2112 21 годину тому

    She had to yell at me when she asked a kid to bring her ice. He was buissy. So i thought i would be nice and bring her some. Her response= i f_ing asked ______name.. To bring it to me. Not you. ". Who can live with this crap.

  • @wissn2112
    @wissn2112 21 годину тому

    I have found some sudies on MS and. Manic,narccisism, un agreeableness, and such things. This video says a lot. I bring her food. She calls it yucky. Like a 2yr old. Negative everything.

  • @KH11307
    @KH11307 21 годину тому

    Try living a life being yelled at by someone you begged and pleaded and sobbed to stop molesting and groping your privates.

  • @gary5080
    @gary5080 21 годину тому

    I've written a whole book on the subject...

  • @warriormom5843
    @warriormom5843 21 годину тому

    💯‼️

  • @wissn2112
    @wissn2112 21 годину тому

    So much of this is 100%. They cant even have a discussion about a landscape background on a tv show without turning it into an argument. You can't say something has happened to you. They will either bring up something they did decades ago to one up you. Or give you a shoddy remark like...well did you go to the emergency room? Then the shitshow starts when you point out the bad behavior. Get you sucked in. Change the subject or point out something else you did bad. Even if irs exaggerated. Then blame you for your anger.

  • @wissn2112
    @wissn2112 21 годину тому

    Sneaky. They call you for help or interrupt you constantly for attention. Ask what you are doing to so called ask you a dumb question. All the while say. Oh can you get me this. The whole time was to get something else. But need to make up constant frivolous things to get you in front of them to ask for something else.

  • @maxwellcoleshow
    @maxwellcoleshow 22 години тому

    Thanks for the reminder and breakdown Dr. C. I've learned so much from you.

  • @Pp-ix5in
    @Pp-ix5in 22 години тому

    Sneaky little soul suckers

  • @user-qv9nw1dq2f
    @user-qv9nw1dq2f 22 години тому

    Brilliantly described dr Carter 😊 appearances are deceptive. That’s the covert narcisists behaviours.

  • @clarecollins2547
    @clarecollins2547 22 години тому

    The awful thing is that eventually they make you ,the non narcissist ,contemptuous. Its like poison they are toxic. Ive said goodbye to my narcissistic friend before i explode! I feel sad but, its the only way.

  • @clarecollins2547
    @clarecollins2547 22 години тому

    Thank you Dr Carter.

  • @loris4814
    @loris4814 22 години тому

    They are the evilest people I ever met . They will destroy your life . Luckily I have something left or I would have been in the street .

  • @stephanieburgess8217
    @stephanieburgess8217 22 години тому

    Is it normal for a covert Narcissist to be the one to end the relationship but still target you with their rage? Even though they have a new relationship?

  • @isartoraplatz
    @isartoraplatz 22 години тому

    I know people like that And to me it’s hysterical… Dealing with that on a personal level with I have a very relaxed attitude about such things😂 You are great!!!

  • @stephaniejames8421
    @stephaniejames8421 22 години тому

    I love this channel. Super informative.

  • @boogieuggie7865
    @boogieuggie7865 23 години тому

    These types of people are users and abuser to anyone they come in contact with.

  • @juliebarlow1792
    @juliebarlow1792 23 години тому

    Dr. C. this video is just brilliant. All your videos are amazing but for me this one knocks it out of the park. You've nailed the spiritual depravity of NPD with crystal clarity, but at the same time reminded all of us survivors that we've chosen the beautiful path of peace, humanity, kindness, and well being instead.❤

  • @RavenzFlight
    @RavenzFlight 23 години тому

    100%

  • @blackbelt524
    @blackbelt524 23 години тому

    I truly appreciate your knowledge and wisdom... A black man

  • @mizt7643
    @mizt7643 23 години тому

    This is one of the loneliness and most painful spaces a person can occupy. ANYTHING is better than the feelings of 'diminish-ment', dejection, and confusion characteristic of that space. 🙁😞

  • @CAPCAPTAIN
    @CAPCAPTAIN 23 години тому

    Yes. Absolutely evil

  • @sbeaulieu80
    @sbeaulieu80 23 години тому

    Again, I feel like it's a lack of intelligence. Really primate as behavior.

  • @tlc4786
    @tlc4786 23 години тому

    HR Departments should be trained through questionaires to detect and avoid these personality types.

  • @SerenityExpedited
    @SerenityExpedited 23 години тому

    False selves. Fraudulent phonies.

  • @nancytwigg4631
    @nancytwigg4631 23 години тому

    My true self compells me to learn all I can about the lying, sneaky, and conniving narcissists in my life and go no contact to protect myself from their ruthless psychological abuse.

  • @sbeaulieu80
    @sbeaulieu80 23 години тому

    I feel like it's a lack of intelligence, sorry but all the narcissists i know, are so stupid.

  • @susanmercurio1060
    @susanmercurio1060 День тому

    My daughter, who you have convinced me is a covert narcissist, actually bragged to me when she was a child that she was "sneaky." I was horrified and said that maybe she meant that she was clever. She said No, she meant sneaky.

  • @bigpanda6787
    @bigpanda6787 День тому

    They are demonic. They revel in the ruination of people lives that they caused

  • @oneinharmony
    @oneinharmony День тому

    My sister

  • @kathleensmith8365
    @kathleensmith8365 День тому

    These guidelines are so clear and so true. They are applicable for any relationship involving a Narcissist. So sad there is a need to protect ourselves. But there it is.

  • @WomanofGod-jc4cj
    @WomanofGod-jc4cj День тому

    NO CONTACT PERIOD!!!!!

  • @TerryLegette-kb1sh
    @TerryLegette-kb1sh День тому

    Their MAGGETTs from the

  • @marinagarcia5647
    @marinagarcia5647 День тому

    So sad

  • @edith4334
    @edith4334 День тому

    A mirage they have their own tale tale

  • @marinagarcia5647
    @marinagarcia5647 День тому

    So true

  • @allesasmart
    @allesasmart День тому

    Oh no....that means my mom will get worse!

  • @sideswiped6874
    @sideswiped6874 День тому

    we call it "2 facesed" !!!!

  • @lisamariesmith3610
    @lisamariesmith3610 День тому

    Try a drop of oil of oregano under your tongue or gargling with peroxide but don’t swallow it. Search it. It has worked for me.

  • @2thedivine944
    @2thedivine944 День тому

    They never let you in. The door is locked, but yet you are invaded, with the intent to destroy. I say NO